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Hostile work environment?

Thursday, January 8th, 2009

How do you go about dealing with an individual that has the company scared or backed into a corner by screaming age , religion and sexual orientation discrimination? There are several of us coworkers who have dealt with this person on a daily basis where we have been bullied ..or verbally attacked and have taken this to our supervisors and was told that “we are documenting everything ” but this is still happening ..I don’t feel safe at work anymore and I don’t feel like my supervisors are even concerned anymore ..I also know that this person has a pending settlement from the company and has seemed to be acting more and more aggressive with others here at work…where do I or “we” go from here ?

-Mary

Hi Mary.

You are talking about a hostile work environment. I’m assuming you have a human resource department, yes? If so, that would be the next place to take your concern. Your HR department will need to actively look into this, including conducting a possible investigation.

Mary, you and your coworkers have the right to lodge a complaint to HR. You may want to let your supervisor know that this is what you (and your coworkers) are going to do. You don’t have to do this but it is not a bad idea if you believe you’ll be working with your present supervisor for a while. That way you are being up front with your intentions. Again, up to you. Let me know what happens and we can go from there.

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They’re after me!

Wednesday, November 19th, 2008

Dear Dr. Mac, I’m having unusual conflict, tensions and decreased respect with my coworkers and Boss. I could use sound advice before I lose a job I see a future in.

When I started in the new department 8 months ago half of my team members were professional, the other half began playing into my emotional side by telling me stories to gain my empathy. But now I seem to be the one everyone picks on. My boss used to say “I know what you’re going thru.” Now he pits us against each other as if he doesn’t want us to work together. He doesn’t deliver solutions that he stands behind. He doesn’t lead by example.

I cannot perform to the high level I know I capable of because there’s always so much turmoil. I challenged the lead team member one day because she threatened me and it was both inaccurate, inappropriate and unethical. I discussed the situation with my boss and 2-days later I was given an INFORMAL warning regarding something that would have normally been overlooked.

For some reason I feel I’m being attacked not challenged. Accused not taught. It’s not the criticism; it’s the negativity that makes me say this. If I talk with HR re a hostile workplace will that be suicide? Help!

-Hosanna PS: I just bought Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People. It should arrive in 7-10 business days

Hello Hosanna. I believe I know what you are asking, but I did find your letter a little hard to follow. I’ll do my best in giving you some advice.

What I didn’t see in your letter was what the issues your boss and coworkers are having with you. You mentioned that you’ve made some mistakes, including one mistake that lead to an informal warning. It sounds like you have contributed to some of these problems you are having, am I right?

You certainly can go to HR for “advice and coaching”. I mention this because you never want to go just with complaints. By asking for guidance, it shows that you want to be part of the solution. Given that, my guess is that they will ask you if you’ve brought your concerns to your supervisor? After all, your boss deserves the opportunity to address your concerns before you go over his head to HR.

So, have you brought your concerns about him and your coworkers to him?

Clearly, improving your relationship with your boss is critical, especially since you already have an “informal” warning on file from him. I suggest that you initiate a conversation with him (maybe even over coffee at a nearby coffee shop just to get away from the work space) where you can do two things:

First, let him know that you’d like to turn things around and improve your ways. In doing so, ask him for any additional feedback/suggestions he has that can help you improve as both an employee and as a coworker. This will show that you are sincere in improving your performance. Take whatever advice he gives you and be sure to work on improving in those areas.

Secondly, tell him what you need more of or less of from him in order to better perform at your job. Let him know why it is important to get the support you need from him. By doing this, you get him to commit to you as well, making your progress more of a partnership. What I would not suggest doing at this point is being critical of his past performance. If that conversation is still important to you to have with him, you’d be better off waiting until you are on more solid ground.

In regards to your coworkers, bring your professionalism and mutual respect to work and stay away from engaging in game-playing, talking behind coworkers’ back, and negative chit-chat. In other words, disengage a little from them socially while always be willing to help and support them on work-related projects. You become less of a target if stay professional and maintain your space from them. Is this something you think you can do?

I would also suggest that you stop whatever behavior that is causing problems for any of your coworkers. You are at a place where you need to improve your relationships in order to get back in good graces at your company. Turn the other cheek if you must, but stay away from office politics and any inappropriate behavior. And yes, I understand that your coworkers are participating in inappropriate behavior, but it is not serving you to get involved with all of that.

Hosanna, write again if you’d like to get into specifics about dealing with your coworkers. But first take care of your primary work relationship, with is with your boss.

-Dr. Mac

Not allowed to chit-chat at work

Wednesday, October 29th, 2008

Dr. Mac:

My boss does not like it when co-workers talk to each other, for reason other than business. We cannot ask each other how was your weekend or any social interaction what so ever. My boss caught me last week talking to a secretary during working hours and pulled me into his office and said we are not allowed to talk to each other unless it is business related. Is this legal? I feel very uncomfortable at work and I have not spoken to anyone since. Margaret

Hi Margaret. Thanks for your question.

Why do you think your boss is disallowing office chit-chat? Has there been reason in the past for him to take such a strong stance, or is he simply over-controlling and distrustful? I ask because his behavior does seem a bit extreme and I’m wondering if something caused this?

In regards to the legal question, there’s a big difference between what is illegal and what is just plain unfair. The fact that your boss treats ALL employees similarly, equally good or equally bad, usually does not give rise to a discrimination case. It just means you have a bad, and perhaps paranoid, boss. I do have one consideration for you, where your boss may be overstepping the bounds of lawful behavior: The National Labor Relations Act, a federal law that covers unionized and non-unionized private workplaces, and many states’ laws, make it unlawful to curb employees’ right to engage in “protected concerted activity.” While a boss may keep employees from discussions that distract from work being done, a boss generally cannot limit an employee’s ability to discuss the terms and conditions of work, e.g., salary, benefits, safety issues, in non-working time. In other words, employees have the right to gripe on their own time (during breaks, at lunch, and after work). What this means for you and your fellow employees is that your boss cannot disallow socialization and discussions regarding the conditions of work during your breaks and at lunch, but he can do it while you are working, as sad as that may be.

With that said, such demands on the part of your boss can create an unfavorable work environment for everyone and eventually lead to low morale, a lack of motivation, and bad attitudes amongst the workforce; all factors that will end up hurting your boss in the long run. Hopefully he will come to this conclusion on his own, but don’t count on it.

My first suggestion would be for the group to raise this concern to your boss at the next staff meeting. I mention this because he needs to have the opportunity to hear the concerns and reply to them before you do anything else. Who knows, you might even get lucky and be able to convince him to lighten up on the chit-chat restriction.

If he is not open to changing his ways and/or negotiating with you and your coworkers (i.e., in return for lightening up on the chit-chat restrictions, each of you will promise to be productive, efficient, and get all of your work done in a timely manner, etc.), then let him know that you intend to escalate this issue to his supervisor and/or HR. By telling him your intentions, you show him that you mean business. Of course, before you do this, you’d want to decide as a group if this issue is truly disturbing enough that you’d be willing to take it to his boss and/or HR? If it is, then you know what to do. But, if it is more of an annoyance than anything else, you may want to still bring it up as a group to him but not push it if he is resistant to the feedback. To me, you have to choose your battles and this may not be one of them. Your call. Beginning December 4th, you can call the Ask Dr. Mac talk radio show with any other concerns by going to www.latalkradio.com.

-Dr. Mac

Troubles at work

Thursday, September 25th, 2008

Dear Dr.Mac,

I started to work for company “A” 5 years ago. My boss was sponsoring my visa and I was working for his insurance brokerage office. In that office was also my cousin working which has a relationship with my boss. In the beginning everything was just wonderfull, untill I started to get independent- I learned English, I went to school, I was doing good job at the office. After while, I meet my current husband, and that was a very big issue. Then my cousin was saying bad things about him to other co-workers, even though she never met him. I just didn’t feel comfortable introducing him to somebody who basicly calls him a gay! That was a beginning of the meltdown.

I did speak to my boss several times that this work environment for me was unworkable. He didn’t care and continued to mistreat me. Thinking about going to work made me shake inside. It became worse, so I quit.

In the meantime I spoke to insurance agent that we have our house insured with and he offered me a job which I accepted. But then I started to get phone calls where they would keep calling and hang up each time.

Now, the attorney of my ex-boss is saying he will file a suit against me and my new boss for breaking a no-compete clause. me competing. I don’t think he has a right to do such a things, since I was hired on different position. I did not steal any of his clients, even a lot of them are my friends. He is just angry, but how far it can go yet?
-Frustrated Foxy

Dear Frustrated Foxy,

Although I did have a hard time understanding your letter, let me toss out a few thoughts anyway.

Did you sign a “no compete” agreement when you took your first insurance job or anytime while you were working there? If you did, then your former company may be able to go after you. If you didn’t, then they are probably trying to scare you for some reason but don’t have a legal right to threaten you about stealing clients. Either way, I suggest you talk to an attorney to make sure you are okay.

Secondly, it might not be a bad idea to have an attorney write a letter to your former boss asking him/her to leave you alone. Since it sounds like you may have been in a harassing environment, there may be some grounds for you to fight back. Since I’m not an attorney, you will want to talk with one. It is unfortunate how you were treated at your last job. Don’t give up. You should never have to stand for any inappropriate or unprofessional behavior! Let me know how it turns out.

-Dr. Mac

Hostile work environment?

Sunday, August 31st, 2008

Dear Dr. Mac,

I work for a large software company in a sales capacity. In a very real sense, the work environment is very similar to what you would expect of a frat house. Women are vastly outnumbered(less than 10% females), and we are constantly treated like emotional basketcases and/or sex objects. References about a womans clothing, cleavage, size, etc are thrown about without any regard to feelings. While none (thus far) of these comments have been directed towards me, we are in a cubicle environment and it is impossible to not overhear these conversations. Previously I would stand up and glare when I would hear such comments, but it does nothing more than guarantee a mumbled apology and then probably rude comments about how I am a prude. Oh well! I finally went to HR. Immediately the HR rep (male) went into defensive mode…. leaned back in the chair, arms crossed and told me that sales people are of a different breed and need some lattitude. He asked what solution I felt would be appropriate to which I responded that sensitivity or sexual harrassment training may be a good first step. The HR rep then went on to inform me that no action would be taken based on one person’s complaint, but he will keep his ears open for other complaints. SO.. what are my options? Can one person change an entire corporate culture? How can I get this to stop?

-End of my rope Edna

Dear End of of my rope Edna,

I would like to share this riddle with your HR rep: what do horseshoes, hand grenades and harassment all have in common? That’s right, close enough is good enough to do some damage. In other words, under our civil rights laws, bystanders have the same right to be free from harassment. Therefore, even if you are not the target of offensive behavior, but you see harassing behaviors or overhear offensive language, you are just as protected and you have the right to complain. You were right to complain. Your complaint triggered the employer’s responsibility to seek out and eradicate offensive behavior. The fact the HR rep did little or nothing only exposes the employer even more. The HR rep is also forgetting another important rule: The majority does not always rule in harassment cases. The standard for determining offense is whether a reasonable person under a totality of the circumstances would find the behavior objectively offensive. The fact an organization’s culture tolerates, or even encourages such behavior, is irrelevant. The arguments that we “were just having fun,” “that’s the way it’s always been around here,” “it’s just jokes and harmless teasing,” or my least personal favorite, “boys will be boys,” are admissions of liability, not reasonable excuses or defenses. Indeed, trying to invoke the “we are different,” “we are sales people,” or “we are so important” defenses in these cases is just a form of corporate suicide. I should add, if you are subjected to some adverse consequence because you complained, then the employer is not only liable for harassment to which you have been exposed, but also for retaliation. Finally, if your employer does not do anything, employees have the right to complain to the federal or state civil rights agencies in your state to seek relief. Given your employer’s lame effort, you may wish to consider taking your complaint to a more receptive audience.

-Dr. Mac