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Exposing backstabbing against another employee

Dear Dr. Mac,

I have recently become accidentally aware of my co-worker conspiring with my boss against another employee (lets call her Jane). Jane and I have worked tirelessly to bring about an excellent academic and well respected program at the cost of our health and overtime (I work at a university). For over 3 years now, we have been saying to our superior (lets call him Jim) that we are not sustainable and we are not receiving the support we need to continue. Eventually, Jane decided to move on and leave for another job as she could not continue anymore. With her end date coming up close, the oldest co-worker in our department (lets call her Holly) has been bullying Jane. For the past 3 years Holly did not want to have anything to do with our program but now that she sees it is successful and could become one additional success story to put on her CV she is trying to get as much information from Jane in a very unprofessional and commanding manner (often exhibiting adversarial behavior and physical violence by slamming objects or her hands into the table) to prove her point and that we should listen to her as she was correct. As you may imagine the environment in my department has become somewhat toxic. That message I have come across was a printed email message to my boss Jim from Holly in which they have both been slandering and badmouthing Jane and other co-workers. Of course I have made Jane aware of it, but now I am not sure if I can/should expose their secret agenda and how they behaved. I feel this is the right thing to do, but I am well aware I can lose my job too at some point in time. Your help is greatly appreciated.

-Patryk

Hi Patryk and thanks for your question.

I have worked in higher education myself as both an administrator and as a faculty member and can relate to the troubled situation you present. I see a couple of options here. You certainly could confront Jim in a private meeting (maybe offsite somewhere in a comfortable setting-i.e. coffee shop), revealing that you saw the email and have been troubled by it, along with Holly’s behavior, for some time. Let him know that you intent is to see if you can work this out together, but that things need to change and for the better. My hope is that since he essentially got caught with his hand in the cookie jar (you seeing the email), he will have an invested interest in correcting the problem.

The second option would be for you (and Jane if possible) to have a confidential meeting with Jim’s superior for the purpose of seeking guidance and advice on handling the situation. I wouldn’t suggest getting too specific or showing the email at this point, but merely seeking tutelage on how to best address the problem with Jim. Because Jim is the supervisor, it will be important to get him turned around and/or part of the solution as quickly as possible. Holly can be next but without Jim’s support, Holly may not see the importance of altering her behavior for you or the program. The key with the second option is not to expect Jim’s superior to address the situation. The key is to make him/her aware of it but to still take responsibility yourself in addressing the issue. You have an obligation to always take a concern about Jim to Jim first. That is why you are only seeking advice at this point from Jim’s superior.

Now, if Jim is non-receptive or unwilling to address your concern, then you need to let him know that you feel you need to escalate your concern to Jim’s superior. Make sure he hears you say that. You want to be up front about what you intend to do. And because you have already shared your concerns with Jim’s superior, you already have covered all your bases. My guess is that Jim won’t let it get to this point since it would not benefit him in any way.

I suggest going with the first option and talking directly to Jim in a private setting. If, for whatever reason, you don’t feel comfortable or safe in doing that, then go to the second option. Since Jane is leaving, make sure that you address your concerns about working with Holly and Jim and defining the relationship you want to have in the future with the both of them. Don’t spend a lot of time talking about Jane since that will keep you in the past and you need to focus on the future. Hope that helps a bit. I’ve been stung by the politics in higher ed and know how that can hurt. That is why you want to play this above board.

-Dr. Mac


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