Thanks for writing. Clearly you need to have a talk with your supervisor. It sounds like three things have happened. First, your relationship has changed with your supervisor, and not for the better. In fact, your comment about not trusting her anymore suggests to me that you have hurt feelings about this as well. Second, she is questioning your work processes and has unfairly written you up for a mistake you made. And third, you have a coworker who went to your boss with a problem about you instead of you directly.

Right now, I suggest you take a “baby-step” by initiating a meeting with your supervisor and ask her what you need to do to get your working relationship with her back on track. Let her know that you are committed to doing the best job you can and supporting her in any way possible. Then take her advice and focus on doing the best job possible. Forget about hurt feelings or paying any attention to who in the office are friends and who are not. You need to focus on the job and improving your relationship with your supervisor.

I also would recommend that you not give your coworkers anything to cause them to complain to your supervisor about. You might even forge a relationship with that particular coworker who complained about you so that they feel comfortable taking any feedback about you to you in the future. If you are perceived as willing and wanting to improve your relationship with coworkers as well, people will be more encouraged to approach you directly. Another way to ensure this happens is by asking others if there is anything you could do to work better or more efficiently with them.

Wanda, I’m guessing there are some things you are doing that are problematic for others, causing the scenario you described in your letter. Take responsibility to change what you can change and be consistent in how you work with everyone. If you can take the steps I’ve outlined above, you should be able to get things back on track in no time.