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Should I have left my phone number?

Hi,

I went for dinner (by myself) and I only ordered a small appetizer. It was a very romantic place, so it was a little awkward that I was by myself. My waiter was a very handsome guy, and he was very nice and friendly, not a snob at all. He seemed like he had been raised well and had good manners, dressed nice, hair combed neatly, smart, funny, professional. Seemed like good dating material, at least the kind of guy you could take home to meet Mom, the “marrying” kind.

I was chit chatting with him and he was smiling back at me in that shy quiet way. He had a lot of other tables to tend to. I was rambling on just so he could linger a bit and yes he was talking to me, but it was a little hard to talk to him much since he was super busy and other tables were calling for him…so we couldn’t talk for more than 15 seconds at a time.

I was definitely giving him “the bedroom eyes” so it’s pretty obvious that I found him attractive. He’s gorgeous, so I’m sure he’s used to women doing that to him.

He didn’t wear any rings. It would be really odd if he didn’t have a girlfriend. I would be very surprised if he was single. He is too high status and handsome to not get hit on. He did NOT seem like a player though. From talking to him I could sense he was interested in serious relationships only.

I decided to give him a big hint, so I did make a comment “I am here for a romantic dinner date - ALL ALONE ALL BY MYSELF” and he chuckled and said “that’s ok, a lot of people come in here by themselves.” I said I was finished, so then he gave me the check, ran my credit card, and left to tend to his other tables.

So while I was writing the tip on his copy, I saw he was extremely busy and there was no way I could talk to him any more. So I was thinking about writing down on the receipt my name and phone number and writing ‘call me’ or something…but here’s the catch, I had just applied there for a job to be a waitress also, so the manager (his boss) was talking to me most of the time, kind of a mini-interview, and he shook my hand and he showed me out the door. So I couldn’t even get a chance to write that on the receipt. Darn!

What would you have done if you were in my position?

Well I’m probably going to call them in a few days to see if they’re interested in hiring me anyway…

I’m still interested in him. Obviously I’m interested in the job first and foremost…but I wouldn’t mind him either
Any advice?

P.S. I was REALLY hoping he would ask me out provided he’s single…but he is at work..and his managers RIGHT there talking to me…so obviously a lot of guys wouldn’t

Dear Annie,

You’re funny. Regarding your scenario, did the manager seem interested in hiring you? Was there good energy between the two of you?

I ask because if you do end up working there, you problem is solved, right?

Had you not been applying for a position there, it might have been fun to see what happens by leaving your phone number. Why not! But I think it was a good thing that you didn’t do that. Think about how awkward it could be if your waiter has a serious girlfriend and you do end up working there. You will already have put your cards out on the table before even knowing this guy…probably not the way you want to enter a job, particularly given that employees gossip and could have a field day finding out that you left your phone number on your receipt.

Now, if you don’t get the job, then go back on the same day and time with a female friend and flirt away with this guy.

Either way, let me know what happens.

This entry was posted on Sunday, January 3rd, 2010 at 10:37 am and is filed under Work Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed.

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